let’s talk about mass shootings and masculinity

What we need is a healthier brand of masculinity, one that leaves room for men to have feelings and create intimate friendships with other men and not constantly be at war between who they are and who they are supposed to be. As women learned how to survive and grow past their restrictions and oppressions, so should men.

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stop calling people “crazy”

The word “crazy” gets thrown around a lot these days, and is used to describe a multitude of things from rollercoasters to fashion choices to, well, people. The word, according to Merriam-Webster, has synonyms that range from crooked and erratic and mentally unsound to obsessed and infatuated. In other words, it’s not the best term to use when you’re trying to be specific about your meaning. And while […]

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the apple

It was a gloomy, wet, Wednesday morning as we all trooped in through the staff entrance, shaking our umbrellas and tracking water all over the floor. It was only after a few minutes, as we stripped off our raincoats and changed out of our galoshes- that someone noticed it. “Hey, what’s that?” someone said as […]

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today, a scary man delivered me a couch

I think it’s extremely hard for men to understand the fear that often accompanies women as we move through the world. It’s hard to teach someone to understand the warm spurt of panic in your stomach when you’re in a parking garage and you hear footsteps behind you, or when you find yourself in a situation where you are caught alone with a strange man, or any multitude of other circumstances that are typically normal and harmless but set off those alarm bells anyway.

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3 a.m.

Chad walked down the dark street with one foot on the sidewalk and the other in the gutter, narrowly missing a “No Parking” sign that was bent at an angle. Troy weaved on the sidewalk, his phone screen illuminating his face. “This app is supposed to tell you where you parked. Why the fuck isn’t […]

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